ephemeralchemex

As a man, I can say that the idolized casual emotionless sex and hookups are toxic aspects of our culture. The “getting laid” mentality is reductive and for younger men who doesn’t really have a greater context see women as sexual objects. In reality, they should treat them as people. Individuals who have their own beliefs, interests, dreams, and aspirations. To clear the misconception, most men who engage in emotionless sex aren’t happier for it, social media makes it seem like it’s the best life but digging deeper intimacy goes way beyond sex with an attractive individual. Don’t get me wrong, I like attractive individuals, I’m in no way a saint. However, I want to see people beyond the layer of appearance and attractiveness. Who are you as an individual? There are millions, if not billions of attractive people in the world, but what makes you different? In the long term I think this is what makes relationships last. At the end of the day, no one stays young and attractive forever, everyone ages and everyone grows old. Who you are is what really matters? But why?

There is a lot of pressure on young women to have the courage to have lots of sex partners, but at the same time they are seen as sluts by both, men and women. It’s becoming every time more difficult to find something stable with a partner that the only way to get rid of the sexual energy is through one night stands or friends with benefits. The experience of the journey definitely doesn’t leave you with the correct moral of the story and can lead to some deeper issues….

How do we contain the outliers? should we control them ? Does it make a difference on the type of outlier?

Has the sexual revolution backfire?? I don’t know !

to be continued …..